Winter is on our doorstep. With that comes time slowing down a bit...maybe being stuck inside with some extra time on your hands. That gives us a moment of time to reflect with a nice cup of tea. Normally we stress, we rush, we exhaust ourselves all week, only to wait for...what? When will we take a moment to slow down? Our downtime and weekends are often used for running errands and catching up. Sounds familiar?
We live in fear that we will not be on top of things, we are anxious that time is running out. Relatively speaking I guess that it is true, but there are actually studies that teach us that available time is relative to how we spend it. Or rather, how we count it.
Sure, there are deadlines. Things we have to do by a certain time. We can however slow down time by not looking at the clock all the time. Yes. Times is relative to how you think of it.
Actually, the Power of Slow is not so much about slowing down as much as it is about taking time. How is that for a "being caught between a rock and a hard place"? It is not really about spending more time doing the same thing, it is about paying attention, being aware, and being in the moment of what we are doing. Often we rush ahead only to get there and then realize we missed something, have to go back or do it over.
Slow is also about quality. The choices we make based on the quality of time versus the speed. The quality of ingredients in our food versus the time it takes to get on our plate. Or the time we take to eat it. We only cheat ourselves if we choose poor quality fast food since we will be hungry soon again and instead have to spend time again to get more food, more money, and again time to eat it.
Apart from the fact that we work more optimally, if we take a break every so often. Our brain needs it. Our body needs food for fuel. Your soul needs some space to breathe. This all creates and environment where you can be more efficient in what you do...and it might just end up costing you less time after all.
Our relationship with time is crucial to changing our relationship with ourselves and others. We tend to let time run our life rather than spending our time living our life.
Ask some simple questions of yourself to help you find your boundaries of time and how you spend it or if it spends you. When it comes to self-nourishment we need to be able to do both. Be efficient, get things done, AND take care of ourselves.
1. Why is a task so important to you and how have you chosen it? We often feel that others have given us a task and a deadline and not realizing that we have a choice to agree with it or not. When we don't see it as our choice we tend to feel depleted by it rather than empowered.
2. Who has decided on the time frame for it and are you in agreement? If you are not in agreement it means you don't feel you are able to do it. That poses a problem for your stress. If you believe you can do something you are empowered.
3. How can you take care of yourself AND do what you have to do? You use your time well when know what you need to complete a task or project. This includes food (it is your fuel), time to recover as in sleep or a walk, and time to think (step away for a moment). These all ways that allows you to still move towards the completion of a task, but you take care of your care at the same time.
We often make a choice between Self and a project or a task that has to be done. We have to realize that we are the resource that gets us to the final completion so we have to practice self-care in the process. We cannot step on ourselves to reach higher. We can reach higher by supporting ourselves.
Taking time, spending time with our Self. That is time well spent. Everyone needs some quality time. Everyone needs some slow-down time too. Have a cup of tea and slow down for just a moment. With your Self.